“After becoming a missionary and failing miserably, attempting suicide, and then attempting to date a woman, I realized that I couldn’t fake it any longer. and the moment I stepped bravely into my identity as a gay Christian, I was better able to function and learned to love myself, God, and the world so much better.”
1. Where are you from and where do you live now?
Originally from VA, but now living in Atlanta, GA
2. Tell me a little bit about what you spend most of your days doing.
I work part time for a restaurant serving organic, grass fed and ethically sourced burgers to the lovely people of Decatur.
The other part of my time, I spend as an LGBTQ advocate, working with the reformation project (and LGBTQ Christian org) and creating content that focuses on the intersections of faith and sexuality. Right now that includes my blog and my podcast, and will be expanding to a YouTube Channel in 2017.
3. Give us a little insight into your upbringing…
Here’s the highlights:
Grew up in the deep south in the church.
Knew I was gay at age 14, but tried desperately to suppress it, and was in reparative therapy for most of my teen and early adult years.
After becoming a missionary and failing miserably, attempting suicide, and then attempting to date a woman, I realized that I couldn’t fake it any longer. and the moment I stepped bravely into my identity as a gay Christian, I was better able to function and learned to love myself, God, and the world so much better.
My favorite thing to share is that I’ve done more ministry in my 1.5 years as an out, gay Christian than I ever did as a wannabe straight worship pastor.
4. What is your religious background?
5. On a scale of 1 – 5 how supportive was your family when you came out?
6. Do you have a message to kids out there who come out and might not have the support of their families/friends?
It is not a lost cause. It is not hopeless. Is it hard? Yes. Is it terrifying? Yes. Does it require courage? Absolutely. But I believe it is worth everything to live life as your full and complete self.
7. Why do you feel that the simple message of the Promote Love Movement is important?
Because while we’ve made a lot of progress, there are still kids and adults across the US who lack safe spaces to share their lives, and we can create that.
8. What kind of person do you want to be remembered as when you die?
As someone who told the truth, walked humbly, loved mercy, did justice, and did everything he could to love the person in front of him.
9. How do you feel like growing up in church played a part in shaping who you are?
This is a very tricky question. Because while the Church, made by man, definitely played a part in hurting me, it also was instrumental in my healing, and I do still love the Church, despite her flaws and problems. I believe that she can change for the better, and that it does not belong to people, but to God. And as such, I work to organize my religion and my religious communities around the right things.
Not to mention that reforming the church is my life’s purpose. So. It’s like… complicated. 😉