“At the ripe old age of 27, I realized I was gay. All of the sudden, I couldn’t fit into that box of expectations any more and that changed everything for me. I suddenly was forced to think for myself, to really delve deep into what I believed instead of just regurgitating what I’d heard over and over at church and in bible studies. “
1. Where are you from and where do you live now?
I grew up in Lubbock, TX but have been living in Dallas for 16 years.
2. Tell me a little bit about what you spend most of your days doing.
I spend my days slinging houses…I’m a realtor in Dallas and work constantly (which I love). I also have a super loving and understanding soon-to-be wife, Taylor, whom I spend the rest of my time with, along with our dogs, Chuck and Mo.
3. Give us a little insight into your backstory/upbringing…
I grew up in a small town/college town/bible belt-vibes town. I’ve always believed in God and went to church on a semi-regular basis with my family (who are all super amazing and loving). When I was a teenager, I remember feeling like there were two distinct sides amongst my peers…those that went to church (what good people do) and those that didn’t. It felt very black and white to me and I never considered that I could have a relationship with God without the stereotypical Christian subculture that I was used to accompanying it. There was always this imaginary line in my head between doing what I wanted and doing what I was supposed to do. I was used to just going along with what I thought I was supposed to believe and how I was supposed to live my life. I sampled both sides of that imaginary and ridiculous line into my twenties until I finally realized, I CAN BE WHOMEVER I WANT TO BE! This was a phrase I’d always heard from my family and believed to an extent but at the ripe old age of 27, I realized I was gay. All of a sudden, I couldn’t fit into that box of expectations any more and that changed everything for me. I suddenly was forced to think for myself, to really delve deep into what I believed instead of just regurgitating what I’d heard over and over at church and in bible studies. Thankfully, I had several extremely supportive friends that never made me feel any less loved and I was able to start really exploring my faith and who I was on my own…for the first time without expectations or trying to fit into a little box. I also had people in my life tell me that I’d just bought a one-way ticket to the fiery pits of hell BUT because I already had supportive people around me, I was able to move on pretty quickly from that kind of hate.
4. What is your religious background?
5. On a scale of 1 – 5 how supportive was your family when you came out?
6. Do you have a message to kids out there who come out and might not have the support of their families/friends?
The most important thing for those people is to find someone that does support them. When I first came out, I was really focusing on the negative and on all of the people that weren’t ok with it. I had a close friend tell me to “cut the fat.” He meant that I should just move on from those people and focus on the ones that loved and supported me. That gets a bit tricky with family but the goal is to find a community of people that love you for you.
7. Why do you feel that the simple message of the Promote Love Movement is important?
Love and compassion is how humans thrive in the world. There’s nothing more important than that.
8. What kind of person do you want to be remembered as when you die?
Loving, thoughtful, caring and compassionate.
9. Do you still attend church/religious gatherings?
10. How do you feel like growing up in church played a part in shaping who you are?
I love the community of the church…that’s what church should be! My personal experience is full of positive influence. The negative influence that I felt was largely individual opinions and not that of the church, as a whole. Regardless of religion, there are assholes out there. They are everywhere and most of them spend their lives convincing other people to believe what they believe. Focus on what you believe spiritually and not on what people tell you is right or wrong.